Why I Never Gave Up Trying to Find The One

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Sladana Mitrovic
6 March 2019

If I gave you a play-by-play of the journey I lived to find my husband you would have told me to give it up many years before I met him.

Despite all evidence, extremely cruel men and long periods of being single I still never gave up, even when I took my break from dating. I always had hope.

I knew my journey to him was going to be an internal one. I had to get myself aligned to the person I wanted to be when I met him.

And without aligning myself to the true me, I would never meet him.

The true me is the woman who I had to uncover, to remove the layers of doubt, negativity and expectations of how things should be.

I never gave up because I knew what I wanted and I would not be swayed by my circumstances, the shitty men I dated or the condescending “you’ll find someone” remarks from family and friends.

Over the course of many single years, I had built up enough shitty opinions about men that created a barrier to ever meeting the one.

It’s the layers of doubt that keep our wishes away. It’s our own built up negativity that keeps us stuck in a perpetual merry-go-round of bad dates.

It really just comes down to how we feel about our singleness. The longer we resist or don’t like being single then the longer we’ll be single.

The irony is you have to love your single life to pieces before there’s any chance of finding love.

The Universe will not gift you ANY of your dreams if you are not in love with your current life.

Loving your life doesn’t happen overnight, it’s a process of acceptance of where you are then healing of your expectations and all negativity before your dreams will show up.

The best part is, I learned to love my life so freaking much I didn’t give a shit that I was single anymore. Then poof, the minute I’m content and happy being single he shows up.

If you’re humble enough to be raw and honest with yourself about your dreams then that’s a great first step.

As I’ve said before you can’t have ‘goal shame’ and expect to reach your goal.

If you want to find someone then be proud of that, don’t let your ego dictate how you feel about your dreams.

While I felt shame and embarrassed at being single for so long, I remained single.

It’s the same with those angry bitter singles, while they are at this level of negativity, they are keeping ALL their dreams away.

You have to learn to be happy where you are to get to where you want to go.