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Anything Meaningful Takes Time to Grow
11 March 2019
In my experience, if something is quick and easy then chances are it’s not going to be long-lasting.
Reflecting back on the guys I dated I noticed that if the relationship was going to be short-lived then it went at full speed.
Full speed meaning he’s talking about taking trips together pretty early on and acting like a married couple only a few weeks in.
Maybe it’s my woman’s intuition but I could sense a clock ticking during the relationships that wouldn’t last. I always felt like time was running out.
And sure enough, the relationship would start hot and heavy and be over pretty quickly.
But with the right kind of relationship things move a little differently.
It’s slower and more deliberate.
There isn’t one person leading the pace, it’s your combined energies setting the pace.
It takes some getting used to especially in the beginning. You’re so used to going in a haphazard fashion that you’re not sure what going at a slower and more deliberate pace means.
Don’t question it, just go with the flow, let it be what it needs to be.
If it’s the right relationship, then it’s going in the right direction.
And this doesn’t have to just be about dating and men the same is true for every other desire and dream.
The right thing will always take longer to achieve, let this be a sign that you’re on the right path.
I’ve seen women mess up great relationships because it was going too slow for their comfort level, they assumed going slow meant that it wasn’t the relationship for them.
Allowing things to grow at their own pace takes courage, faith and a certain level of unattachment to what everything means.
It’s the ultimate paradox, you have to be all in while simultaneously being unattached to the outcome.
Train yourself to know when something is moving forward slowly versus not moving at all. It takes practice to know the difference.
Not moving at all feels different, to me when something wasn’t moving forward it felt like an ending like the energy had drained out of a relationship.
This all takes emotional intelligence (EQ) to figure it out and the good thing is we can always build our EQ.